well... halloween came and went. personally, i hate halloween... and apparently i always have (ask my mother). having a child means you have to act like you like things that you don't, like DORA (why does she yell everything she says) or holidays that suck (halloween).
he had so much fun. he dressed as a skunk, quite a unique costume. no, i didn't sew it... i didn't even buy it, it was a gift from my advisor. but boy, did he rock it. every time he went up to someone's door, he'd give an adorable "trick or treat" with his little chicklet-y smile. then he'd say thank you and before he walked away he'd turn to my sister, my husband, and i and say "let's try another one!"
he seemed content once his little pumpkin bucket was full to head back to the house... and then it was more about how excited he was to give out candy. i've never seen a kid as into giving out candy as him. what a little doll... somehow halloween was better this year that it was any of my previous twenty-mufflealskjd years.
last night i watched "frontline" on PBS. it was about the author of this book called the undertaking by thomas lynch. he is an undertaker, family owned business. amazing show. really... profound what he had to say. i think one of the moments that really went into me was when he talked about burying children. he explains how he never keeps a stock of children's caskets, always orders them as they are needed. he says they're covered in beautiful pink or powder blue crepes. he would estimate size needed by looking at the size of his own children, laying sleeping in their beds. thomas never charged more than wholesale for the caskets, and did the funeral for free, hoping that god would spare him what these parents were going through.
he makes no mistakes about it being a business... he, afterall, has a 'corner on the market' in his town. but he had a special ability to remain reverent, compassionate, and useful during these peoples' times of need. had he discussed how his life was only about helping others, refused to acknowledge the funds transferred during such a time, or acted as though he DIDN'T thank god every time his loved ones were spared, i would have considered him to be quite a fraud and dismissed him. but because he was willing to talk about being an undertaker as a living human and not a facade, i felt for him and trusted him. if nothing else, he did say some very profound things about death and grieving.
i highly recommend reading his book, 'the undertaking', and watching the frontline episode about his work. i was so engaged and amazed, that there were times during the show when i couldn't move or close my eyes, my heart was so wide open.